What is Swinging?
Swinging is where a couple seeks out another couple or single person (or two) to enter into sexual relations or swap partners. This could happen via an ad or a designated party or a meet-up—or like any other sexual encounter, casually and randomly.
Swinging is practised by all types of couples from hetrosexual to same-sex and is not restricted to just couples – people who are not in a relationship are also a part of the swinging community with other sexually liberated singles and couples.
Swinging couples permit their partners to have sex or “play” with other people, sometimes joining in or just watching from the sidelines. Couples who embark on this lifestyle often have rules that set a level of trust, like being with others, together, sexually, but being only with each other emotionally.
How to get started in Swinging as a couple:
Talk to your partner…
If you are interested in swinging as part of a couple having a discussion with your partner about swinging is the first step to finding out if the choice is right for you both. It’s important that you are both on the same page, and that you aren’t rushing into it without understanding your own personal boundaries regarding intimacy first.
One way to test the waters is to watch porn together and study each other’s reactions. Find out what you like, what’s boring, what’s a turn off. Are you jealous of what your partner likes or finds attractive? Are you turned on by being turned on by the same things? This is a starting point for conversation.
Do your research:
Swinging can mean different things to different people.
This research could mean visiting swinging forums or engaging in conversations with other swingers first to get an idea of expectations and possible issues. Often, people mistake swinging to be the same as polyamory, where a single party practices emotional and sexual relations with multiple people other than their significant other. Swinging is a joint effort, where the couple goes into swinging together, whether simply for pleasure or to improve their relationship.
To some, knowing that both parties are going into it as a pair, as equals, makes swinging seem more appealing and approachable.
Set up some rules and boundaries:
Know your boundaries, negotiate your boundaries beforehand, and also know that boundaries can be renegotiated depending on feelings.
Rules are important to feel safe in any new and strange environment, and if respected, rules can also strengthen trust between couples. The boundaries you make with your partner can always be shifted based on comfort levels. Ultimately, it comes down to what you two, as a couple, want out of swinging—and if the reality of swinging is giving you what you want.
Join a Swingers Club:
Once you have discussed and established your rules and boundaries you can take it to the next step by visiting a swingers club together. Swingers clubs all have one thing in common, their members are all swingers. Each club will have its own unique style and facilities that it offers its members so it is ideal to research a few clubs to find your possible perfect one or two or more!If you are traveling further afield from your hometown maybe check out hotels local to where you are visiting and make the experience like a mini break for adult fun.
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